My husband is being transfered to Ethiopia & i & our daughter will be going with him. She is 6 & i will Home school. After a year or so he'll be transfered to another country in that area. This will go on until he can retire in 10 years. I told him if he gets assigned to Saudi Arabia he has to quit or i'm moving to my parents house. I refuse to have a white, female, American child in such an evil environment. I'm sure there are lovely people there but women are treated like dirt. They can't drive cars, go with head dress & i would never in a billion years have my baby in a public school there. So if it were to happen(with my luck it will) what is it like?
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no
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Don't ever go there. My uncle is an ex-patriate living in Dubai. They provide a good life but the rest of the middle east DOES NOT. Especially for white Americans. It is a terrible, terrible idea. Your child cannot thrive in such an oppressive environment. Neither can you for that matter. Your husband has to decide between his family and his job... You cannot live there. Please.
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sounds like you have it summed up pretty good. There is many cases where and Arabian man marries a white women and then goes home. There is a movie staring Sally Fields "Not without my daughter" that tells what it will be like. The amount of money he may make and the power he will now experience over you will over whelm both of you. A dollar goes a lot further in those countries and men find they have all the control. Once there you cannot leave so don 't think we will go on vacation and then come home. Your daughter will be forced to learn muslim law, and if a truly rich man no matter what his age happens to be takes a liking to your daughter there is little you can do to prevent him from making her one of his wives. Money is power!
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If you don't love your husband enough to follow him where he earns the money, sorry - you do not love your husband. Beside the moral aspect of you not following your husband - what's wrong with living in Saudi? If you think that in Saudi women get treated like dirt - your opinion. What that got to do with you? Yes you have to wear Hijab and you can't drive - so what? Where's the problem? Bottom line. You choosed a husband being on foreign employments (I did the same). Set your priorities. Your marriage or the "inconvenice" living in Saudi for just a certain time. I have a friend {Brit) who calls her time in Saudi "the best". After being in Ethopia you may feel like in haven being in Saudi. Give it a chance and think positive.
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well... you think that : women are treated like dirt.. Seriously opinion differs.. but the truth shall remain the same no matter what you or anyone else thinks. I m an expatriate living in saudi arabia from 18 years and believe me what other people think of saudi arabia as treating women as dirt is NOT the case in reality. Yes, i agree that women are not allowed to drive, they have to wear hijab but that does not mean women are treated like DIRT !!! I m myself a woman who longs to drive a car but not getting my desire fulfilled does not make me say against this country though it's not mine.. I love staying here... my home country is free and has all what you think as freedom means.. yet i feel safer here. When it comes to schooling, i know so many americans and british friends of mine who actually feel saudi arabia offers them more than what US/UK offered them ... There are american and british schools here and they are known to give good education to children.. If you think that this environment is evil, then that is because you have just read what the newspaper or magazine speaks and seen what the media shows.. And obviously you will agree with me that media does not show the REAL image of the country.Rather, it justs builds up some biased image and displays as reality. It would be completely wrong if i say that US is such a bad country because each day i see 100s of stories about rapes and murders.So i m not gonna go there.. And i guess someone above me answered saying that once you come to saudi arabia, u can never go back n money is power n crap like that... Sister, i just wanna tell u that saudi rules are strict regarding going back and all that, but again if u want to leave saudi at anytime with ur child, you can leave it at the earliest.There will be no complication with u n ur child being forced to stay here. Whereas if it is ur husband, surely he will have to complete his job time and then leave this country.. Really, i think you should support him if ever he gets to come to saudi arabia. After all, he is not earning all that money solely for himself and certainly need ur support. It shall be a matter of few months probably and he is not forcing you to stay in saudi arabia for a life time.. Good luck from my side, but all i want to tell in the end is: Like we know the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence, similarly The grass is not always rotten and spoiled on the other side of the fence.
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Stay home, we got enough American thugs.
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well if you come to Saudi with a "hate" attitude, you wont like it.. But there are tens of thousands of western woman living here, some married to saudis, some came with their american husbands and they are happy to be here and frankly prefer raising their little white daughters here much more than raising them in USA where they would be subject to rape, drugs, and teenage sex... its not an "evil" environment.. its a family geared environment.. high moral code here.. generous culture.. some expats have loved it here so much, that they've raised their family here, and their children returned to work and are now raising their children.. I know many in this situation. I agree 150% plus what "H" has to say up there.. So what that you wear a scarf... dont american women wear scarves also? if they didnt, then why do I find scarves in Macy's, Dillards? Walmart, Saks 5th avenue? why? ... So you couldnt drive.. There are so many ways to get around here that ive never found it a problem... The woman here dont feel like they are treated like dirt.. We are not exploited for our bodies like the women of the west are.. We are respected for our knowledge and our mind.. Not if we have a perfect size 2 body, perky breasts, full lips, and fake died extention laden hair, And you dont have to put your child in public school.. there are hundreds of thousands of private schools, and even international schools where all the british, american and western children go...
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If you really care about your daughter, no matter what country you decide to invade, make sure she is not home schooled by a bigot.
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